Happy Weekend

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Hey friends, sorry for the radio silence around here this past week! School has been kicking my butt. I have to give myself pep talks every once in a while to stay motivated. Five. More. Weeks.

A few friends from Germany are visiting this weekend and we are headed down to my home to celebrate Easter. I’m curious to see what they think of their first American Easter! The weather has been beyond gorgeous lately, it really feels like summer is taunting us.

What are you up to this weekend? Hope it’s a good one.

Happy Weekend

50452120e335bea5dee8109b86e4369e.jpgHappy weekend friends! One week of school down, six left to go. Lately I’ve been having fun combing through old black and white photos like the one above to see what gems I can find. I don’t know why, it’s just so inspiring! Photography is incredible.

Anyways, I don’t have much planned for this weekend– brunch with a friend, homework, a little shopping perhaps. But next weekend is Easter, and two of my friends from Germany are visiting me and my family! I could not be more excited. It’s been so long since I’ve seen anyone from my summer in Hildesheim and I miss them desperately.

Well, have a good one friends and I’ll meet you back here next week!

Happy Weekend

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Well hello there friends! I literally cannot believe another week has flown by. I only have six weeks left of school. You hear? Six weeks! How is that legal?

It was a nice week. I snapped this photo during an impromptu stop by the beach to watch the sunset. And yes, I realize how spoiled that sentence sounded. I’m headed to a German restaurant this evening (yay Deutschland!) and can’t wait to devour a bratwurst. Unfortunately, I won’t be able to drink beer for three more months and three days (but who’s counting?)…

Have a wonderful, peaceful weekend friends and I’ll meet you back here in no time.

Spring Break Baby!

IMG_3683All I can say is thank god I made it to today. It was a crawl to the finish line. I am writing this from the comfort of my bed at home, somewhere I have not been since winter break. I can’t believe the semester is half over. I am going to be a senior…crazy. Anywho, just wanted to drop in and say have a wonderful weekend and don’t forget to unwind. I can already feel myself sinking deep into vacation mode, a state from which I fear I may never return.IMG_3678IMG_3679IMG_3681IMG_3682IMG_3692IMG_3693IMG_3695IMG_3698IMG_3676IMG_3685

 

Have A Very Happy Valentines Day!

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Well hello there friends! How are you on this romantic holiday? I must admit, I’ve never made much fuss about Valentines day. Maybe it’s because I’ve never had a proper valentine (besides you Dad!) or maybe it’s just my personality, but it’s always been a fairly normal day for me. I guess that just means that when I do have a full-blown valentine one day in the future, it will be all the more special!

This weekend I went on a retreat in Santa Barbara with an organization on campus. I had no cell service, so I was able to fully unplug and enjoy the nature around me. I could totally see myself living in Santa Barbara one day– the vibes are right on.

Anyways, what did you do today to celebrate the love in your life? Who do you appreciate, be it romantically or otherwise?

P.s. The photo is of my latte this afternoon #basicwhitegirl

Happy Weekend & A Happy List

12814391_1029941103718596_8539954319998996980_n.jpgWell hello there friends, how are you? This week has literally flown by. I cannot believe I’ve been in school for four weeks now. Summer will be here before we know it (wishful thinking? maybe…). On this gorgeous Friday morning, I thought I’d write out a list of ten little things that made me happy recently to kick off the weekend:

  1. Latte Macchiatos. I used to drink these every day in Germany, and Starbucks just recently introduced theirs here!
  2. Movie nights with girlfriends.
  3. Baked goods of any type.
  4. Discovering this new podcast.
  5. Checking things off my to-do list like a boss.
  6. Staying up too late to finish a good book.
  7. Catching a whiff of someone’s cologne or perfume.
  8. The New York Times crossword puzzle.
  9. Taking pride in something I’ve written.
  10. Scary movies.

What are your plans for this weekend? So far the only thing on my agenda is a movie night tonight with some girlfriends. Have a good one!

 

Happy Weekend

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You know what I thought I’d try today? A round up of my favorite links from around the web! Is it just me, or has the internet been particularly good lately? Below is a list of a few of my top finds this week.

In other news, life has been pretty good lately. I went to a friends 1920’s themed birthday party on Tuesday dressed as a flapper (pictured above). I looked pretty dapper, if I do say so myself! I also had a big work event this week which went off without a hitch *insert big sigh of relief here*. Tonight is the Pepperdine Film Festival ReelStories, where they show student made films on a variety of topic. My little brother is coming and I can’t wait!

What are you up to this weekend?

My Beauty Uniform

Eight words that reveal the sexism at the heart of the English language

Why Ascribing Intent is making you Miserable (written by me!)

Iceland Myth Busters

 

Why Ascribing Intent Is Making You Miserable

IMG_3270.JPGYour friend never responded to your text. Another driver wouldn’t let you merge lanes. Your housemates didn’t invite you to dinner.

Incidents like these occur every day, and they’re usually things we have no control over. Nine times out of ten, our first reaction is to take offense. We assume it was a personal insult, a slap in the face intended to hurt us. We walk around feeling offended, and can let it ruin our day or even our relationships. By ascribing bad intent to other people’s actions, we are making ourselves miserable.

In today’s digital world, taking things too personally is one of the quickest ways to drive yourself insane. Happy people do not ascribe bad intent to innocuous actions.

That friend who never responded to your text? She doesn’t hate you, she was probably just in class and couldn’t get to her phone.

That driver who wouldn’t let you merge lanes? He isn’t a jerk, he probably just didn’t see your car.

Those housemates who didn’t invite you to dinner? They’re not intentionally trying to exclude you, chances are the dinner was an unplanned, spur of the moment outing.

You see, by playing out the realistic intentions behind any scenario, you can talk yourself down from the edge. I am not an expert at this by any means. Ascribing intent is one of my main struggles in life. Perhaps it stems from lack of self-confidence or impatience, but I tend to be over-sensitive and easily hurt. I get caught in the downward spiral of over-analyzing, and can quickly work myself into a panic over the most trivial matters. Too many tears have been shed over things that never actually happened. It’s a gift, really.

In addition to talking through the most likely reason behind any scenario, I also find it helpful to eat a big slice of humble pie. Believe it or not, you aren’t the center of the universe. The world does not revolve around you. People do not exist solely to text you back promptly. They have bigger, more pressing matters to attend to. As obvious as this sounds, it is actually quite a hard pill to swallow. It requires constant reminder to shift your mindset, take a step back and view the big picture. Don’t beat yourself up if it takes a few failed attempts before you finish that piece of humble pie. Humility is a learned discipline, it takes practice.

Lastly, I find Teddy Roosevelt’s words, “Comparison is the thief of joy,” to ring true when talking about intent. The times when I’m most hurt by what I think other people did, are the times when I compare myself to others. It usually looks a little something like this:

She didn’t call me back because she prefers hanging out with her other friends.

They didn’t tag me in that picture because I’m not as pretty as everyone else in it.

He didn’t like my post because he doesn’t think my caption was as funny as others.

Comparison and intent form a vicious cycle. But don’t despair, there is hope. Plenty of people have learned how to take things at face value, and nothing more. They do not ascribe intent, and live happier lives as a result. It comes with practice, maturity, and healthy boundaries. If your phone is the main source of most of your misery, maybe try unplugging every once in a while. If certain friends seem to always leave you out, try inviting them to do something for a change.

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Happy Weekend!

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Why hello there! How are you on this chilly Friday in January? Thick fog hangs over the ocean here in Malibu and I think I feel raindrops every now and again, or maybe it’s just wishful thinking.

My first week of school is complete- one down, fifteen to go. I am always overwhelmed by the syllabi at the start of school, and have to remind myself  it’s never as hard as it looks on paper. Do you have to give yourself little pep talks once in a while, or is that just me?

My plans for the three day weekend (thank you MLK Jr.) include reading, writing, and a few meet ups with friends. I also hope to dust off my camera and take some new photos. I adore photography and wish I made more time for it.

What are your plans for the weekend friends? I’d love to hear!

P.s. I got a Polaroid camera for Christmas, and have been obsessively documenting my life with pictures like the one above!

 

A Happy List

IMG_2438.JPGTwenty things I that have made me happy lately:

  1. The rain storm Sunday night.
  2. My fuzzy white blanket.
  3. Acoustic guitar music.
  4. Chance run-ins with old friends.
  5. Of course, coffee. So so much coffee.
  6. Messing around with my camera.
  7. When someone is genuinely passionate about something and their passion rubs off on you.
  8. Decorating the Christmas tree.
  9. Windy mornings.
  10. Light pink cotton candy sunsets.
  11. Finding the perfect Christmas present for someone.
  12. Bonding in the misery of finals.
  13. A text that makes you laugh out loud.
  14. Staring out the window on long car rides.
  15. Listening to a song so many times you feel it in your bones.
  16. Phone conversations with my parents.
  17. Thrift store finds!
  18. Japanese Cherry Blossom perfume.
  19. Hot showers.
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