My Favorite Relationship Advice

IMG_4737I once read an incredibly simple, obvious piece of relationship advice that struck me like a bolt of lightning. It was: They either like you or they don’t. 

Yup, that’s it. Nothing too earth shattering, but for some reason it has stayed with me ever since. Most people know whether or not they like someone. It’s not typically something they have to think long and hard about. I remember once I asked a boy if he liked me, and he said no almost immediately (lol). Plain and simple. It doesn’t matter what lipstick you wear, how long you wait to text him back, which movie you ask him to see. If they don’t like you, there’s really not much you can do to change their mind. And vice versa, if they do like you, chances are nothing trivial will jeopardize that, which I find incredibly comforting and reassuring.

While it might sound over simplified or callous to some, I find this advice liberating because I’m an over thinker to the max. I will slave away for hours crafting the perfect text to send to a boy I like, when in reality a simple ‘hey’ would do just fine! Basically, I shouldn’t sweat the small stuff so freakin’ much.

Of course there are cases where people change their minds about someone over time (this relationship crap be complicated), but in my experience I’ve found this advice helpful 99% of the time.

What do you think, does this advice resonate with you? I’m dying to hear your thoughts!IMG_4716

 

 


2 thoughts on “My Favorite Relationship Advice

  1. I agree with this. I think people spend too much time worrying about how to “make someone like them” when in reality whether someone likes you or not is largely out of your control. Of course, not being a dick generally helps but the details of that don’t usually matter much. I would also add another simple piece of advice to this: try not to take someone not liking you as a personal insult.

    -Danielle
    solongusa.blogspot.com

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