Hey friends, how are you? I went to the pier this weekend with a sweet friend, and it got me thinking about the topic of friendship. Below are a few words on the subject if you’d like to read:
For the majority of my life, I wholeheartedly believed in the phrase “Best Friends Forever.” I thought once you became friends with someone, it was a bond strong enough to last forever. I always prided myself on being a loyal friend who stuck by people through thick and thin, but over the past few years I’ve come to realize that while that sounds lovely, its just not realistic.
People play different roles in our lives during different seasons. Loyalty is not the most important part of a friendship. Love is. There have been people in my life whom I love dearly and will continue to love, but from afar. Our close, intimate relationship simply wasn’t sustainable for the long haul, or might have held us back from pursuing other opportunities. No one can be your everything all the time. Maybe you were best friends with someone in high school, but that closeness didn’t translate to college. Or perhaps you just started dating someone, and your friend can’t relate and doesn’t want to hear about it anymore. During this seasons, perhaps it’s time to find someone else who shares your current life stage.
Sometimes you just have to flat out say goodbye to a friend forever, for whatever reason. I have had to do this in the past, and it was extremely difficult even though I knew it was the right decision. And it is something I need to get used to, because I will grow apart from countless people throughout my life. The only thing that keeps me from despairing at the thought, is that it means making room for new, vibrant friendships.
I have a handful of friends from childhood with whom I’m still close. They are extra special people who have seen me grow into the woman I am today. I will cherish them always. But not everyone can be this way, like I used to think. Many friendships are time limited, and that’s perfectly okay. Don’t feel guilty or beat yourself up for parting ways with a former companion. Longevity is not the main goal, but rather love. So don’t try to be best friends forever, be the best friend you can be right now in this moment.
Question of the Day
Have you ever drifted apart from a close friend? What was the experience like?